If you want to call it cheating …

What the What?! What kind of foolishness is this garbage?

Let’s Define Cheating:
Urban Dictionary– When one person has a significant other and performs any type of intimate acts with another person.
Webster– to be sexually unfaithful (there were many more, but this one will do).
Choc swirl– you have chosen to spend intimate time with someone that isn’t your partner, be it mental, emotional, or sexual intimacy. A rule of thumb, if you can’t tell your partner about this person, you’re most likely CHEATING!

Now, moving on!

Anything that remotely sounds like this you should run away quickly and don’t look back, you may turn to salt. Okay, that’s a bit much!

So, are you single? Well, no. Okay, you are in an open, poly or swinging relationship? Ah, no. So … would she be okay with finding out about me? Probably not, but who knows what she’s doing!

It was great chatting with you, we should exchange numbers! Okay, what’s yours? Oh, well give me yours and I’ll text you. Okay, so is there a problem? Well, no, just that you can only text or call at a certain time. Oh, so you’re married? Umm, yes. Oh okay, so y’all are open? Well, my side is.

Hey, why don’t I come over this weekend with a movie and dinner? So, that’s going to be a problem. Why is that? I’m attached.

Hey, what are you up to? Oh, nothing much, you? Just was wondering if we can hang. Sure, your place. Naw, lets get a room. Aren’t you single? Yes. Hmmm, okay.

This is funny, but so very sad. I can’t remember the last time I actually met someone that was truly the definition of single: single. It saddens my heart to no end, I’m being straight forward and honesty with you about who I am, and my attachments, but you can’t seem to acknowledge yours! Give me the opportunity to decide if I want to jump on your train, pulling your many cars.

So yes, you can call it what you will, but I call it cheating!

The initial first phone call

I’m so disgusted! I can’t imagine getting off the phone being this totally irritated with a conversation in my life. Well, maybe, but this one really shook my nerves! I’m done! I’m just going to be a single poly wanna-be!

Talk your way out of the pussy!

Found a beautiful cock on one of the sites I like to perv on. The cock had placed an ad which stated: Searching for a discrete lady that likes their vagina massage and stroked slow in the Atlanta area. Sooooo, I’m in the Atlanta area, I like my vagina massaged and stroked slowly,  I sent an email. I described what I was looking for and attached pictures of what I looked like and what I had to offer.

He responded! We exchanged numbers and we quickly move to scheduling time to meet in a neutral midpoint location. Something went wrong, turned ugly within the first 35 minutes of the conversation. He stated that my current situation was weird and quite strange and if I still wanted to see other people and be out there doing my thing then what’s the purpose of being in a relationship. He goes on to say that if I was his woman, he wouldn’t allow it and that its just crazy. I explain to him that this relationship or situation as he put it, isn’t for everyone and he had a right to his opinion. I explain to him that I had tried the the married and committed relationship where people lie about what they are doing and with whom they are doing it with. I explain to him I would prefer to know what I’m getting into before I commit and expect that I’m going to be all you need. He tells me that it’s not normal to do what we are doing and that’s just not right and aren’t you concerned about diseases?  I followed that with, I’m aware of what’s out there, that’s why I protect myself and see my doctor every 6 months, what about you?  You are in some form of relationship, right? Yes! So does she know? No! So, how do you justify your actions? Are you okay with her doing the same?

Well she’s not as sexual as she use to be. Well, why be with her, move on. She’s a good woman. So why not talk to her and work something out? Let’s not talk about her. So your cool if she wanted to do the same? No, not at all. So….? You want to school me on the dangers of an open lifestyle but you aren’t even open to talk about yours, which is obviously broken?

Needless to say, this meet didn’t happen.

It’s sad to state that I meet more of these types of guys than those with open minds. This is just one instance of many. Some follow a different pattern but they all end in the same manner. Some state that it’s not for them, but when and if I’m ready to cheat, to hit them up. Others state that the relationship won’t last and when it ends, hit them up. While some stick around for conversation then disappear for months to a year to finally email me reminding me who they are and asking if I’m still in that relationship/situation thing. They all seem to be shocked to find out that I am and we are still swirling and open.

Let’s all go to the movies…

“I’ve never met you before so lets make our first meeting a movie. We can chat and really get to know each other while the movie is playing…”

What type of date is that? How are we to learn about one another if we are sitting in a quiet, dark room watching a movie? Give me a break! At least lets get a drink at a bar or go some where for a coffee/tea! Let me look at your face, your teeth, your smile, the way you stand, watch your body language as I bombard you with questions that make you uncomfortable. How can I do that, if we are in the movies?!

 

Really!

CS